Why you got to make us look bad

OK, so my roommate and I were discussing TV shows and we happen to bring up shows that we seriously believed the whole message was to display black people at their worst and at the top of the list is a clay animation called the PJ’s. Now I just recently saw this show but it’s centered in the projects and is about these black people (plus an Asian and Mexican singular) that live in this run down building. This show is a piece of racism at its max and I mean I sit there and ask myself does everything that come out these characters mouth have to make me feel stupid. I mean the main role model is a Don King looking guy that is a janitor, also the only person with a job on the show he steals from friends and family, he is constantly lazy, he dodges bills, got a hoe for a niece, neglects his wife and spends most the episode pissing me off. The kids are stupid failing out of school, they got a whore, a crack head that lives outside, African voodoo click clack woman and other bunch of other stereotypes that are to display black people in projects. See I could bear this show if it had some balance but the only positive character is a stay at home wife that mainly wants her husband to sex her up and usually ends up going along with whatever shit is happening.

Every good black comedy cartoon or real people have a least one positive role model and it can still throw in some black humor that shit could be funny. Fresh Prince a successful Uncle and Will Smith character and even Jazz are both from hoods of Philly yet they manage to throw in a flavor while not setting blacks to look stupid to their audience. Boondocks this show cracks me up and they play off a lot of black stereotypes yet the Grandfather is successful and they have the main thing a balance that allows them to do humor without making us look like a bunch a failures.

I grew up around mainly black people and until my high school years I didn’t really meet and mix with any other cultures and a lot of my first impressions of other races were at first based on TV or things I heard. So its works the same way kids watching the PJ’s get a view of blacks off TV especially when you don’t live in a racially rich area. You forget that there is no particular way that someone acts you act based on where you grow and how you live. But instead it creates people that are racially stupid and never learn that people act in different lights no matter their color. Dumb ass shows like PJ’s gives off every black in ghetto projects are certified dumb ass from birth. They just need to add a few good models or at least give a good message; TV shows do the teaching for parents who are to lazy to teach their kids.
P.S (directed to Eddie Murphy)

So Eddie Murphy creator of PJ’s, Eddie Murphy a famous black comedian Eddie Murphy who has done some great black comedy. Don’t make us look like idiots causes that show you put together is some ole bullshit. Us African American as a culture are so rich man, as people we are Proud no matter where we are from Eddie.

The Barbershop Church

Barber Shop

Mr. Lee - 12 years - Philadelphia

Mr. Said - 2 years – Las Vegas

Mr. Craig - 2 years - Chandler

Mr. Jay – recent - Tucson

I was sitting watching this documentary on the invention of barbershops (boring Sunday morning) and how they have transformed through the years. But the thing that stuck with me was that they kept saying how a barbershop becomes a major part of someone’s life its similar to finding a church that works for you it becomes spot and the barber is like the “priest of hair and knowledge.” But your first barber sets the standard for every other barber and if you have a good one you’ll remember his name forever So made me think about the Barbers in my life.

So in Philadelphia I had this guy Mr. Lee and I remember him cause the first time I came into the shop I was complaining and shit cause they were going to cut my hair and I wanted hair like my cousin braided and shit. So I remember some guy (not Mr.Lee) cutting my curled out Afro and I was crying after the edge up. So I got lifted out the chair tears going down my cheeks and this other Barber (Mr.Lee) came up to me asked if he could grab me from my mom’s arms and sat me in his barber chair. So he grabbed some candy out popped it in my hand and told me “once you get your first hair cut you start becoming a man and man never cries about a hair cut so for now on when you need to get your hair cut I will cut your hair.” From that day the whole time I lived in Philadelphia he cut my hair and every time he would give me 75 cents to run and get some candy from 7-11.

But that’s not the reason I remember him cause honestly the only reason I remember that story was cause when I went back to Philly, Mr. Lee retold me the story of my first hair cut. The reason I remember him was partly cause of the bumble gumballs and mainly for the stories. See the barber shop was like a after school hangout my friends and I would walk in there and listen to older guys talk about women, music, movies, sports, news, etc and Mr. Lee was the main man I remember a point where I looked up to him like someone I wanted to grow up and be just like. He gave me advice on a girl I liked, he would tell me why to watch out for types of people and I learned all about cuss words and the biggest thing I learned about was sex from that barbershop. I’m not saying that all his advice was positive and I’m not saying a barbershop is a place for young kids to hang out but for the time being I listen to him more then my teachers at the time.

So I got to say I must agree when they say that a barbershop is like a church. A church will teach you morals and Barbershop will teach you other morals. A Bishop is a person to be respected as a positive figurehead and a Barber to me at least can be a model. So what did we learn, when you have kids stay away from black barbershops or they will turn your kids in sex crazy confident, ready to fight black men L.O.L . Not really but I bet if you think hard you can find a special barber in your past like mine

Hercules Hercules Hercules

I have given up on my working out dreams man. I am burning down all my ideas of a perfect body and recreating it. Now I have been working out for a while but never got the right balance as soon as I start gaining weight. I go out and play a sport like basketball and most recent a combination of soccer/basketball and I feel heavy or out of breath faster then ever before and bang I’m back to Cardio routine and within a week of getting that speed I’ve cut weight and the circle of disappointments continue.
So I flipped a coin and decided to give up on my Andrea 3000 body and decide to stick to a 6 meals a day and high protein and high Carb diet. I’m going to cut cardio to a minimum and spend my time gaining weight.

I blame my Grandma I can’t handle “the nigga you losing weight must not be eating “ comments man. Its hard when you enjoy basketball more then reps and messing up your hand or you prefer a run to clear your mind then worrying about if I did 500 carbs over my usual intake

Happiest doesn’t start from within it starts from your Grandma and it ends at her telling you damn Aymen you are eating well you looking like Hercules if he was black and looking like he could take a bullet to his chest and watch it bounce off. Watch out Grandma this next 6 months are for you

Hercules Hercules Hercules

Kick Ass coming April

Have you seen the movie Hancock with Will Smith a superhero that caused millions of dollars of damaged while trying to use his powers for good the idea was seriously funny and I loved movie and not just cause Will Smith was in it. But now I think I found a new comic book comedy killer movie that will top Hancock.

Now I know now a days you cannot tell how good a movie is depending on the previews but with a title like Kick Ass how the hell could this movie be anything but Kick Ass. A movie about normal people dressing up being action pack super heroes with a comedy flare behind it I like the idea. Plus seems like it has the same feel as that movie "Zombieland" which I got to admit took my favorite type of horror movies (zombies) and made it into a comedy perfection just like "Shawn of the Dead". So my favorite type of action movie (comic based) movies made into an action comedy yes sir sign me up.

What are a few minutes to your day?

Im Late Im Late for a Very Important Date

A few minutes can be those few minutes of sleep that don’t exactly make you more rested just wanting sleep more

A few minutes can be those few minutes where you forget to grab your wallet cause you were rushing to hold on to time that screwed you in the end

A few minutes can be those few minutes on that drive that lets you beat traffic but instead your stuck behind slow cars and the 3 sec green light tease

A few minutes can be the difference between on time to class to being known as that kid that comes in late every day

A few minutes can be a difference between that meter time costing you a minute compare to a ticket costing you 70

A few minutes can be the difference between getting all your reading done to missing those 6 questions on the test cause you missed that part

A few minutes can take away that breakfast time that you haven’t seen in a year

A few minutes can take away energy, health and most important your time

So my message to the world give me more minutes in my day cause I need more to waste

Marley and Relationships

Marley & Me
Starting off with a quote
“A dog has no use for fancy cars, big homes, or designer clothes. A water log stick will do just fine. A dog doesn't care if your rich or poor, clever or dull, smart or dumb. Give him your heart and he'll give you his. How many people can you say that about? How many people can make you feel rare and pure and special? How many people can make you feel extraordinary?”

LOVED this movie man LOVED the dog, LOVED that guy Grogan and his family's life during the thirteen years that they lived with their dog LOVED their choices. It is really the simplicity that makes the story work so well. This isn't "Old Yeller" or "Lassie", though some elements are there. This isn't a dog movie focused on the relationship of the canine and a kid (a la "My Dog Skip"). This is a true depiction of what it is like for most people to get a puppy early in their relationship and how it can develop into them becoming a member of the family. I am tempted to read the book but just tempted cause a movie was good enough

So quote at the end though like I have to admit caught my attention. I don’t know if its because I have a dog, cause I have a close family or cause I have a few relationship relationships where I can say I haven’t given myself or got that type of “extraordinary” feeling.

I mean for anyone who has been in a few relationships not for sex reason but mainly just cause you like the feeling of having someone around that makes you feel special guess what instead of dealing with jumping in relationships just to have that feeling I have an answer that you may like you can substitute all that with family, good friends and a dog LOL. If you don’t believe me watch “Marley and Me”

4 Pillars of Relationships

So I personally believe there are four forms of relationships you can honestly have with the opposite sex. They can be put these into pie charts bunch of circular graphs or those confusing graphs that have lines and dots that connect them. Starting with the most pure one “The Cosby Bound” next in the love train lets go “The Elementary school crush Bond” then cause of my dog “The Dag Park Bond” and last the other turning road from a crush a “No Scrubs Bond”. These to me at the moment are the four forms you can fall either in or between.
So Cosby Bond is the pure television unbreakable bound of family. In this category falls your sisters, cousins, aunts, parents and those lovable neighbors or friends’ family members that even though you might find attractive might as well be family. They are on top of the list they will never change from the moment you meet them. As long as you are in the Cosby standard of mind set: meaning you can see the fine line between “I love you cousin and I want to make love to you cousin” almost the same words but one is nasty like you should take a rope and hang yourself if the thought crosses your mind nasty. So for this Bond remembers ounce of blood is worth more than a pound of friendship.
Elementary School Crush Bond is a dying concept as the years past and the kids start having kids younger and younger, parents teach kids about life less and less. That pure bond that Ashley Banks would make on Fresh Prince of Bel-Air every time a new hot boy came on the show. See this was the type of bond they would refer to, as love at first sight, which we all know, isn’t love but on TV damn it was magical. The characters would get tongue-tied, they start to sweat, and a bubble of hearts would pop up enchanting them by the sight of the opposite sex. This is still true in worker man’s world the Crush bond is simply a pure way of seeing someone from a distance that you might not talk to but you (the viewer) have a bond which occurred simply cause you were captured by their face, their body, they’re personally or a strange fetish that you keep hidden from friends and family.
The Dog Park Bond okay so a quick general story since I got spike (my dog) I will take him out on walks and every now and then I will past someone with another dog. I usually let spike play around and I will say something friendly to the owner like “He’s a good, He just has mood swings.” Now on the rare chance that Spike doesn’t try to bite the other dog I will be stuck watching him play for more then a minute so I will make a dog park friend. So a dog park bond is one of those moments in class, work, football games parties where you are stuck sitting next to someone or in a forced situation where you bond with someone. These in my book are the best bonds ever. Why you may ask simply cause you have no expectation this person could have a story that blows your mind open friendly and you connect with them or they are boring and as you are talking you are mainly thinking of a polite way to end the conversation but since it was a unexpected situation you have no standards on how the encounter with turn out. This bond can also evolve into great friendships with the opposite sex just cause no one is really going out on the deep end.
No Scrubs Bond now this I will explain with my favorite comedy show Scrubs and its main character JD so in JD’s relationship track record every sexy girl starts off as a desire to have a straight up sex. A fantasy will occur in his head where the girl is either half naked or half naked that’s the range of those first fantasy encounters. Then for an episode or two he will attempt to have sex with these girls and after that they disappear from the series. This is No Scrubs Bond but it goes a little past that I also believe going out relationships can be like this when a relationship is built on sex it starts and ends when the sex is no longer in the relationship (no scrubs Bond) or a relationship can add the sex and bang everything can go south if there isn’t a balance (turns into no Scrubs Bond). No scrubs equals no clothes no strings and if it’s a fling no calls after. Pretty much if sex is the main course your ordering then No Scrubs is the bond is made.
So these are my four bonds I actually wrote these in four day period one after each sit down with my dog and there was like 10 different choices in paragraphs till I found one that got what I was feeling across. But I think there are a lot more relationships types out there but all those fall between by four pillars.

The Fine Line

There is this song that goings "We've been friends for long time,  Very good friend of mine, Love you like you were mine, But respect the friend line" Man I loved this song the second I heard it man. See if you know me on a personal level I have a lot of female friends to say the least. Like I love women I love all their styles their voices their bodies and I have a respect for these creatures and not to be bias but got a little extra respect for the real pretty ones. The song talks about three different friendship and how when girls and guys are really good friends there is a attraction cause you end up becoming closer then two people of the same sex could become.

 

I am a strong believer that if you have a real close female friend hold that real close cause it really is special. I have a few good female friends. My friend Monique aka the original Mo mo is one my real closes friend like we met on the school bus and have been friends for long time now. Our friendship has a lot of success built around Mo mo like she hits me up more then most people especially in the morning like if anyone ask what happens in your daily morning routine. Mo mo leaving me a text when I wake up is a for sure thing. 

Then I have my friend Jazz. We became friends because I dated her best female friend and Jazz ended up telling me the truth about her friend before I got to comfortable and from there on besides a little break when she switch schools she has kept me pretty posted about her life. Jazz is crazy like if you erase some of her weird habits. Thats a freak to take home. But honestly thats one girl I love to get  text or call from she is always up to something or got something exciting coming out her mouth she lives life to her own enjoyment.

Now all good things come in threes or is it bad things whatever it is. Oanh aka doll face aka rice aka yellow aka heart breaker aka cat lady aka hoe hound aka etc. I have known her for the least amount of time but I love that girl the most. I hated her when I first met her when we got put in groups together but I think what makes Oanh stand out more to me is her attitude. Like now that I have gotten to know her Oanh all together is pretty crazy. But I really enjoy hanging around people who are different from me and Oanh is pretty different but her mom boost her up in my book love that mom. 

Anyway the reason for this blog was just to say if you have a really close female friend or if your friends with a girl. You need to make a line for yourself or for those guys that try to become friends so you can get a girl after your close if you fit in this category your friendship is lost from the start. I mean I do believe any long term relationship should have a strong friendship behind it. My longest relationship was based on a good friendship but I didn't plan on it. But I don't think anyone should go into a friendship in hopes to date the girl just cause you act a little fake from the beginning, you have a different drive then just getting to know someone. But honestly forget that if I look at myself all my real good friends male or female were random like if I ask myself back then after I met each person if I thought I would become good friends with this or that person I would of said no LOL

You Don't Know My Name LOl

Okay so I was on the phone this weekend and she was singing a bunch of random songs and we played this little radio game where she would sing parts of different songs that I would say the name too. Not saying she is amazing singer cough cough but it was cute but like I was listening to her do her Alicia Keys songs and man Keys can write some beautiful music. Like I was listening to her sing trying to catch her mess up on Key's lyrics but she was on point and then it clicked in my head 'like wow Alicia Keys wrote some bomb lyrics' and I can't believe I'm just now realizing this while listening to someone else sing her song. So I did what every music lover does go online and re listen to her old songs.

Alicia Keys forgive me for forgetting how raw you are. If you are not a fan go get this girls CD'S or if you haven't heard her music in a while go re discover her music again.

Like I remember when my dad first got her first album and I would listen to it in his car. Like back then I didn't really listen to her words. Like when I re listen to it like I actually pay attention to her lyrics

So I was forced to listen to a the lyrics of "woman's worth" today in the car wash, i didn't say it in the car but like that's how I feel anyone with a relationship should treat their girl or guy like their worth more then you can offer and strive to please them the best you can. But more then just in relationships all women should be treated like that from my stand point at least.

LOVE Keys

MANifest Your Destiny

So a while back right before I started college my dad gave me a book titled " a Letter to a Young Brother" subtitle "MANifest Your Destiny" by Hill Harper. The book is mainly like an ongoing conversation between Hill Harper and this young kid or kids through a year or so period and it goes over the young man's struggles and changes and Hill Harper gives advice to the maturing young guy. My dad had given me the book because I was 18 and becoming my own man and he felt with factors like my Love Life, Friendships, School, Work and so on which are all talked about in the book would really help me. I will admit I read the book and the first chapter really drew me in. Like Hill Harper talked about a few things that someone in my stage of life are concerned with.

How much money I wanted to make, deciding if a higher education was really the path for me, Understanding the flaws of relationships, lusting for women, Being myself, BlAH BlaH.

Now I'm not saying the book is one of those live your life like this books and your days on this earth will be amazing not at all its more of a look this is what I did take what you want from it. One of the things Hill Harper stresses in the book is to take risk do things out of character try new things cause how many of us still don't know what we want out of life or dwell on hidden passions we never went for. I have to admit when your life is filled with new things doesn't even have to be a lot just something out of your normal routine life becomes enjoyable it becomes exciting you forget about so many of life's problem or annoying features.

The Journey to becoming who I will be 10 years down the road determines so much of how I will treat people, act in situations, and handle life. This book was really a eye opener cause we all know those 20, 30 and sometimes 40 years old guys that never became a Man and are stuck playing the same cards hanging with same people and taking the same fool like stance. Just like Hill Harper says it might be easier to close your eyes and ears and act like your passing time. But you not. Life is as always moving and it is our personal duty to ourselves to take advantage of it all. Young Millionaire in the making Remember that forget that actually I AIM HIGH Billions Boys and Girls LOL

The Slums Got Millions

Have you seen the movie Slumdog Millionaire if you haven't find a tall building and jump off man. Honestly the best movie I've watched this year. I wasn't going to see it at first but my friend Andy got me to go so theses were my before and after thoughts.

(before thoughts) 

 Indian movie, is more then likely have one of those dance parts in the end, gonna be a love story and its gonna be boring. Gonna waste 2 hours and more of my life. I will more then likely sleep. Never again go to movies with Andy. 

(after thoughts) 

DAMN once again DAMN, Movie was crazy exciting, Yes it had the dance at the end, yes it had a love story but that had to be the most action pack love story I've seen. It was raw like the movie was shoot in the slums, it caught a lifestyle, it had me dead silent, I hardly blinked, It had guns,  It had a hot Indian girl all together a masterpiece man. 

If you are a fan of City of God or Kite Runner or even a Dark Knight fan you will love this movie hands down I will be honest the story is just crazy.

 

SpiffBox.com The new addiction

So I'm involved in a site called spiffbox.com and I have to admit my resume just jumped another two steps. Okay so what is spiffbox.com. 1. its a new social website 2. Its a private site so no creepers (quote from doll face) 3. Aymen's new personal project 4. You need to join. So there are two gentlemen who are key players Chris and Dave both New York born both older guys both college students both have mad experience when it comes to business both can teach me a few ropes cause I have to admit Smart east coast brothers. I like to thank my friend hamza also cause he did introduce me and allow me to get my ideas out to folk that would listen and got pockets for spending to make more money. Okay so how can you join the experience well its private so if your not a part already to bad

Crow Tattoo's Review

         This guy is my artist

 So I got my first tattoo during the summer time July something at Hot Rod and hey I'm not gonna hate on Hot Rod wasn't their fault but the tattoo that I got wasn't exactly completely something that ended up being a mark of forever lasting commitment if you know what I mean so of course I could either A. Get it laser remove costing me mad bUUKUU money or  B. Get the tattoo fixed, covered up, just something over it. I went with B. Now I will post a picture of my tattoo sometime buts its of lips on my chest and I still think the idea was tight (cough cough Oanh suggested it). So I went parlor to parlor having people tell me they couldn't adjust it because of the color or some nonsense bull that Trashy tattoo artist with no skill come up with. So on my way to my favorite Orient food shop a kid passed a fl yer out to me. I went online checked Crows art out on their myspace and damn they had a guy that did tight cover up work. So i went down to the shop and showed off the tattoo and ask if they could adjust it. The owner of the shop who does mainly cover ups art whose name is either Mike or Jason but the guy said he could do it. I came in the next day and my tattoo looks better then it did originally like I swear it looks bomb darker and more intense honestly love it. I have recommended several people and they have all come out loving the Crows teams work. Check if you are looking for a tattoo go to Crows, they had this movie name Boondocks Saints on while I was getting tatted serious one of my favorite movies now  was that parlor fate yes. Seriously greatest tat shop in Arizona. CROWS TATTOO FOREVER 

Number 520-207-9125 set an appointment

Location

335 East 8th Street

Tucson, Arizona 85716

Side Note if you have a tattoo tell me about how the first one went for you in a comment THANKS YOU 

Aymen B. D

Moving on OUt

Okay moving out isn't as big as the world makes it out to be .. at least when you're only moving out an hour away. So I've moved out my parent's house for college into a dorm beginning of 2008 semester. At first I was going to move out with my friends Fritz into an apartment but didn't happen so I got hooked up with a dorm a connection I received from the 360 club which I never fully joined. But I don't know how much everyone else paid but I paid $666.23 a month for my single dorm in La Paz I don't know if its because it was a single or just cause it was in La Paz but still way to much matter fact for anyone moving into a dorm, move in to one of older dorm building or a undecided major dorm you'll have more fun it's cheaper. Big note have a roommate living by yourself gets boring and you end up leaving your room messy. Okay so I moved out the dorm beginning  of the next semester and I live in an apartment mile away from campus, I have a roommate, free parking, a closet as big as my old dorm and biggest part is I pay $250.00 a month can you say big difference LOL. Honestly already better

MY TIPS FOR MOVING OUT

1. Expenses school is already expenses don't spend to much money unless its the best for your money

2. Have a roommate its not as creepy laughing with a stranger as laughing by yourself

3. Location move where you can get to bus stops, school whatever whereever

4. Parking make sure you know where your parking if you have a car, I racked up 7 tickets

5. If your moving a hour away don't go home alot unless you u have a grandma that cooks like Rachel Ray

6. Bring a cooler with you cause if your moving into the dorm the freezer is like a shoebox for one shoe

7. Here's a big one don't leave frozen food out that is just not a smell or poison you want to try.

8. If your moving into a studio apartment its just like a dorm if you have a roommate just bigger

9. Last advice hmm don't spend a lot of time where ever you live honestly just sleep there get out and enjoy the area especially if your in college study anywhere but your room, if your in an apartment still spend the minimum amount of time there 

If you moved or moving out of state I just want to say you're a G cause if I'm having this much fun a hour away I can you imagine the rush, I regret I didn't go out of state somewhere new

AYMEN B D 

Who Am I You Tell Me

Okay Since this is my first personal Blog I decided to just have a whole thing based on if you know me or know anything bout me to write something down about me as comment and thats the Blog, But get ready your bout to hear a lot from me