Monday, November 30, 2009

Marley and Relationships


Marley & Me
Starting off with a quote
“A dog has no use for fancy cars, big homes, or designer clothes. A water log stick will do just fine. A dog doesn't care if your rich or poor, clever or dull, smart or dumb. Give him your heart and he'll give you his. How many people can you say that about? How many people can make you feel rare and pure and special? How many people can make you feel extraordinary?”

LOVED this movie man LOVED the dog, LOVED that guy Grogan and his family's life during the thirteen years that they lived with their dog LOVED their choices. It is really the simplicity that makes the story work so well. This isn't "Old Yeller" or "Lassie", though some elements are there. This isn't a dog movie focused on the relationship of the canine and a kid (a la "My Dog Skip"). This is a true depiction of what it is like for most people to get a puppy early in their relationship and how it can develop into them becoming a member of the family. I am tempted to read the book but just tempted cause a movie was good enough

So quote at the end though like I have to admit caught my attention. I don’t know if its because I have a dog, cause I have a close family or cause I have a few relationship relationships where I can say I haven’t given myself or got that type of “extraordinary” feeling.

I mean for anyone who has been in a few relationships not for sex reason but mainly just cause you like the feeling of having someone around that makes you feel special guess what instead of dealing with jumping in relationships just to have that feeling I have an answer that you may like you can substitute all that with family, good friends and a dog LOL. If you don’t believe me watch “Marley and Me”

Friday, November 27, 2009

4 Pillars of Relationships



So I personally believe there are four forms of relationships you can honestly have with the opposite sex. They can be put these into pie charts bunch of circular graphs or those confusing graphs that have lines and dots that connect them. Starting with the most pure one “The Cosby Bound” next in the love train lets go “The Elementary school crush Bond” then cause of my dog “The Dag Park Bond” and last the other turning road from a crush a “No Scrubs Bond”. These to me at the moment are the four forms you can fall either in or between.
So Cosby Bond is the pure television unbreakable bound of family. In this category falls your sisters, cousins, aunts, parents and those lovable neighbors or friends’ family members that even though you might find attractive might as well be family. They are on top of the list they will never change from the moment you meet them. As long as you are in the Cosby standard of mind set: meaning you can see the fine line between “I love you cousin and I want to make love to you cousin” almost the same words but one is nasty like you should take a rope and hang yourself if the thought crosses your mind nasty. So for this Bond remembers ounce of blood is worth more than a pound of friendship.
Elementary School Crush Bond is a dying concept as the years past and the kids start having kids younger and younger, parents teach kids about life less and less. That pure bond that Ashley Banks would make on Fresh Prince of Bel-Air every time a new hot boy came on the show. See this was the type of bond they would refer to, as love at first sight, which we all know, isn’t love but on TV damn it was magical. The characters would get tongue-tied, they start to sweat, and a bubble of hearts would pop up enchanting them by the sight of the opposite sex. This is still true in worker man’s world the Crush bond is simply a pure way of seeing someone from a distance that you might not talk to but you (the viewer) have a bond which occurred simply cause you were captured by their face, their body, they’re personally or a strange fetish that you keep hidden from friends and family.
The Dog Park Bond okay so a quick general story since I got spike (my dog) I will take him out on walks and every now and then I will past someone with another dog. I usually let spike play around and I will say something friendly to the owner like “He’s a good, He just has mood swings.” Now on the rare chance that Spike doesn’t try to bite the other dog I will be stuck watching him play for more then a minute so I will make a dog park friend. So a dog park bond is one of those moments in class, work, football games parties where you are stuck sitting next to someone or in a forced situation where you bond with someone. These in my book are the best bonds ever. Why you may ask simply cause you have no expectation this person could have a story that blows your mind open friendly and you connect with them or they are boring and as you are talking you are mainly thinking of a polite way to end the conversation but since it was a unexpected situation you have no standards on how the encounter with turn out. This bond can also evolve into great friendships with the opposite sex just cause no one is really going out on the deep end.
No Scrubs Bond now this I will explain with my favorite comedy show Scrubs and its main character JD so in JD’s relationship track record every sexy girl starts off as a desire to have a straight up sex. A fantasy will occur in his head where the girl is either half naked or half naked that’s the range of those first fantasy encounters. Then for an episode or two he will attempt to have sex with these girls and after that they disappear from the series. This is No Scrubs Bond but it goes a little past that I also believe going out relationships can be like this when a relationship is built on sex it starts and ends when the sex is no longer in the relationship (no scrubs Bond) or a relationship can add the sex and bang everything can go south if there isn’t a balance (turns into no Scrubs Bond). No scrubs equals no clothes no strings and if it’s a fling no calls after. Pretty much if sex is the main course your ordering then No Scrubs is the bond is made.
So these are my four bonds I actually wrote these in four day period one after each sit down with my dog and there was like 10 different choices in paragraphs till I found one that got what I was feeling across. But I think there are a lot more relationships types out there but all those fall between by four pillars.